Writings

I had an excellent 1-1 session yesterday, where we explored the importance of taking care of yourself first; before you try to take care of others. Initially, the adorably confused mind thinks this is terribly selfish. However, in that session, I said something that just made so much sense.

"If you don't take care of the one who is taking care of others, then the caretaker will fail at taking care of others."

Also, practically, if you have a tool that does a job, and you don't care for…

"How can I help them?!"

This is an adorably interesting topic for me because... I hear it often as I work with people privately or in groups.

There can be this frantic energy that is innocently terrified of not doing the right thing, or afraid of missing out on an opportunity to genuinely help someone we care about. Also, there is concern about being of service to the world in general.

I keep pointing back to that as a core message, whenever we are experiencing emotional disturbance (…

One of the difficulties I consistently encounter while working 1-on-1 with people, is their general frustration when it comes to communication. However, they don’t always know it’s this. Often, they assume their personal frustration is about other people’s inability to do what they’re told, or other people’s inability to understand them. Really though, in many cases, their frustration arises because they cannot connect authentically with other people in a significant that is both tactful and …

There is this soft silence in me when I think about this topic, maybe as if the question itself is enough. Sometimes words can complicate what is, just so… simple and direct.

The question, “What if… it’s not really Personal?”

Why is this so powerful, for me? Well, because, I recognize that every emotional disturbance I might have is, ultimately, taking something to be personal that isn’t really personal. I’m imagining it to be about me.

This can send shockwaves through my human system and c…

Why is “Awareness & Discernment” most important for joyful living? Well, first, let’s explore what “awareness and discernment” are, in the context of how I’m using these words.

FYI, this is a PBR (Pre-Broadcast Reflection) that I’m writing about today’s upcoming live stream for the “Holding Space for Love to be Seen,” Broadcast/podcast recording.

Awareness: No, I’m not suggesting the most important thing is the awareness of this or that social issue, or the awareness of what you want or don’…

This is a Q&A Response from the Course Community for The Conscious Life Design Course

Question: What about present moment feelings of powerlessness about painful past circumstances?

Ya know, there are so many different approaches to dealing with past traumas and how one can address those feelings in the present moment. Everything from punching pillows to past life regressions, to years of commitment to therapy. It all really depends on where one is at on their path, and I can acknowledge tha…

I tend to be somewhat cautiously silent when it comes to defending myself. Which I feel has been a natural consequence of seeing the depth of Life’s cosmic mirror.

Said, not as an expectation of what one should or should not do, but said as an invitation to see the power in silence or in non-reaction. Inspired by a recent conversation where another wasn’t seeing or hearing “me,” but rather was seeing their own fear with regards to their own personal journey.

Have you ever noticed this? Sometimes, …

Seeing the truth of things, will ultimately and eventually, melt your heart in the most beautiful of ways.

As such, if the heart isn't melted into a celebration of unconditional love, radical forgiveness, and/or unwavering compassion, then my dear... the truth isn't being seen.

This isn't wrong and it doesn't mean you're broken. Rather, it points toward an opportunity that invites a deeper openness, a more raw humility.

The truth of things? It's a truth that definitively answers the question, "What…

In the same way that I can blame someone or something for my sadness, I can blame someone or something for my happiness.

What happens if I blame for my sadness? I violently push the blamed away from me, judging it as less than; ultimately saying, “IF you were different then I would love you.”

What happens if I blame for my happiness? I unconsciously disguise violence as love and cling to the blamed, waiting to eventually blame it for my sadness; all in an effort to manipulate it into being my pris…