Top 5 BS Excuses Holding You Back
Have you ever wanted to take a risk or try something new, but found yourself stuck in a rut, unable to take action? We’ve all been there. Fear, self-doubt, and other limiting beliefs can hold us back from pursuing our dreams and living the life we truly want.
In this blog post, we’ll explore the top five BS excuses that hold us back and how we might overcome them with a little more self-awareness. Let’s do it!
1. Fear of Failure – Excuse
"What if it doesn't work out?"
The point isn't whether it does or doesn't work out, but rather to learn, grow, and discover new possibilities. In most cases, it's likely that things won't work out as we imagine they should in the future.
There is a parasitic belief about failure that suggests it reflects on you as a person. In the ego's quest to validate its identity, it relies on the concepts of failure and success to define its worth and value, and it can fail in both directions. Just as failure does not mean that you are a failure, success does not mean that you are a success.
Failure, in the simplest terms, means that what we tried did not work. Success means that what we tried did work. But how do you figure out what works? You need to explore all the ways that it does not work by being willing to fail. Dive into something, learn, and understand that there is no learning without discovering what does not work. To succeed, you must fail.
Now, beyond seeking validation in success and avoiding rejection in failure, the experience of both success and failure is merely a part of PLAY. It has nothing to do with personal identity. The more you believe it does, the more you will avoid failure, which can also mean avoiding success.
2. Fear of the Unknown - Excuse
“What if I don’t know what to do or expect?”
It’s natural to fear the unknown. Our brains are wired to seek patterns and familiarity as a means of survival. However, the survival that’s being sought after, problematically, is the survival of the ego. I encourage you to examine your fear of the unknown and see how, or in what ways, you’re just trying to protect the idea of yourself, or what other people think about you.
Similar to the fear of failure, the fear of the unknown is often rooted in the ego's need for control and certainty. The unknown represents a lack of control and the possibility of unexpected outcomes. However, the truth is that we can never fully control or predict any situation, no matter how familiar or unfamiliar it may seem. As a result, the ego tells fearful stories about the unknown to keep you safe. But at the expense of genuinely enjoying your human experience, and missing out on any potential adventure.
Embracing the unknown means accepting the uncertainty (the reality) of life and being open to the possibilities that come with it. It involves taking risks, exploring new paths, and learning from whatever outcomes arise. By stepping out of our comfort zones and into the unknown, we can discover new aspects of ourselves and the world around us.
Remember, the unknown is not something to be feared or avoided, but rather a natural part of life's journey. If we shut ourselves off from the unknown, we also shut ourselves off from ALL the possibilities that exist within it.
3. Fear of Disappointing Others - Excuse
“What if I disappoint others?”
Many people fear letting others down, whether it be their loved ones, boss, colleagues, or themselves. This fear is rooted in the ego's need for external validation and approval. We want to be viewed as successful and capable, and the thought of others not seeing us that way causes us to hide and avoid taking risks.
It's important to recognize that your worth and value do not come from other people's opinions of you. You are inherently worthy, regardless of what others may think or say. Prioritizing other people's expectations over your own sincere feelings diminishes your power and playful agency in life.
Additionally, It's important to remember that disappointment is a natural part of life, and we all learn from experiencing it. So, don’t rob other people of their learning opportunities. Let them face disappointment so that they can grow. It's impossible to please everyone all the time, and there will be moments when you fail to meet others' expectations. However, this doesn't make you a failure or a bad person. It simply means that you are human and doing your best at any given moment. Other people's disappointment, like your own, doesn't result from what others do or don't do; it stems from confronting illusions about life that need to be dispelled. You can either embrace this opportunity or resist it; let others do the same.
If you're ready for a powerful wake-up call, try to understand that if you don't want others to be disappointed in you, you're trying to control them. This is like saying, "I want you to see me a certain way. I want you to not be you, but to be how I want you to be.” Release them! So, you can finally come back to yourself.
4. Fear of Losing Comfort in the Familiar - Excuse
“What if I stay where I am comfortable, and don’t take risks?”
It is easy to remain in our comfort zones, where everything is familiar and predictable. However, this comfort often comes at the cost of growth and expansion. The ego loves comfort because it can maintain the ILLUSION of safety and control. However, in reality, staying in our comfort zones limits our potential and prevents us from experiencing new things.
The ego desires to maintain the status quo because it perceives it as the safest and most secure place to be. However, this belief is an illusion. In the world of form, there is no such thing as safety and security. Everything is constantly changing and evolving, and the only way to keep pace with this change is to step out of our comfort zones and embrace the discomfort. This discomfort may also be a form of excitement or enthusiasm for being alive.
Every profound moment of growth has come from experiencing something uncomfortable. And here you are, you made it. Similarly, being honest can also be uncomfortable, but after everything is said and done, you realize how important and valuable it was.
Stepping out of our comfort zones means taking risks and trying new things. It involves challenging ourselves and our beliefs and being open to new experiences and perspectives. By doing so, we expand our minds and hearts and become more resilient and adaptable in the face of change. This is also a way to master future change – we build the muscles that recognize it's okay to be uncomfortable; we are simply experiencing something new, and we are growing.
Remember, comfort is not the same as happiness or fulfillment. Do not be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and explore the unknown. The rewards are well worth the risk.
5. Fear of Lack of Self Belief – Excuse
“What if I'm not good enough?”
You know what? We really need to get better at asking better questions. The funny thing about the mind is that it doesn't matter which questions you ask; it will look for answers. Instead of focusing on negative self-talk, we can ask, “What if I become good enough?" My goodness, you'll get an entirely new list of answers that move you forward, rather than backward.
We often ask silly and self-limiting questions as a way to stay in our comfort zone, avoid the unknown, and keep ourselves safe. But in reality, we're only selling ourselves short. When I reflect on the types of questions I ask, I realize that the answers I receive are not what's most important. Instead, what matters is whether I'm asking empowering questions. If I'm not, then I know I'm not being honest with myself.
Furthermore, I believe that "self-belief" is overrated and can be a distraction. Whether I think I can or cannot be is not the point. The real focus should be on what is sincere and then moving in that direction. Regardless of whether it works out or not, it is not relevant because I will be learning something along the way. The point is to learn, grow, and enjoy the process. I can only achieve these things by moving forward.
Self-belief? How about getting yourself and just going to play? And as you play, share your love and discoveries with others.
So, there you have it, the top 5 BS excuses that hold us back. But don't let that stop you from living the life you truly want! It's time to take action and break free from these limiting beliefs.
And if you've made it this far, you're on the brink of breaking free from the BS excuses that have held you back for far too long. I invite you to explore the possibility of working with me, Tiger, one-on-one. Together, we'll rapidly integrate these discoveries and open you up to living with more love, compassion, and freedom.
Why delay? Life is too short to waste time on excuses.